26 April

Why does my 3 yr old toddler run away screaming when I pick her up from nursery school?

She runs away screeching and tells me to go away. I know she loves the school, but this has been going on for a month now and I am starting to feel like I abuse her or something. It's embarassing. Can anyone help me with advice of how I can get her to look forward to me picking her up from school?

LOL, she is just having too much fun there. When you drop her off in the morning tell her you will be taking her somewhere special and fun when you pick her up that day. Then when you get there to pick her up, remind her of the fun place you will be going. Try that a few times a week, take her somewhere special afterwards. alittle bit of bribery goes a long way :)

5 Responses to “Why does my 3 yr old toddler run away screaming when I pick her up from nursery school?”

  1. Maryn Bittner Says:
    April 27th, 2009 at 4:34 am

    (Love your user name!)

    Ask the staff to help her prepare for going home, starting a good 15-30 minutes before you arrive. They can talk about the good things that will happen at home (dinner, story, snuggles, bath), how much her mommy has missed her all day, like that.

    You might also see if you can start some sort of greeting ritual with her, first at home, then in other situations, last at nursery school. This might sidetrack her present behavior.

    (My son and I had: "Hiya, short stuff!"

    "Hiya, Big Stuff. What do you know?"

    "Nothing, Joe. How's things with you?"

    "Nothing new."

    By the time we got through this, he'd 'acclimated' to being with me again.)
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  2. Angela H Says:
    April 27th, 2009 at 4:39 am

    let her know before you drop her off that you will be back and it's time to go home..is she the only child if so maybe that's why she's doing it she's having too much fun at school
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  3. *Lisa* Says:
    April 27th, 2009 at 4:51 am

    I wonder if she hasn't grasped the fact that everybody goes home at the end of the school day, and is worrying that other people are having fun by carrying on in school after she's gone, and she feels she is missing out on something. Perhaps go and pick her up, and then sit in the playground or somewhere near the school and let her watch everyone else leaving. Maybe even ask the teacher if you and your little girl can stay and watch the teacher putting on her coat to go home, locking up the school for the day and getting in her car to drive home.

    That way she will hopefully realise that everyone goes home after school and that you're not being a "mean mum" by dragging her away when she's having so much fun.

    Also, when you drop her off at school, have something interesting planned for after you pick her up, and tell her about it when you drop her off at school. That way hopefully she will look forward to seeing you and not get so upset at having to come out of school.
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  4. Ambizzle Says:
    April 27th, 2009 at 5:36 am

    LOL, she is just having too much fun there. When you drop her off in the morning tell her you will be taking her somewhere special and fun when you pick her up that day. Then when you get there to pick her up, remind her of the fun place you will be going. Try that a few times a week, take her somewhere special afterwards. alittle bit of bribery goes a long way :)
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    mom to a 5 1/2 month old breastfed baby girl and stepmom to a 7 1/2 year old PRINCESS

  5. Brian A Says:
    April 27th, 2009 at 5:41 am

    Maybe have a special treat to eat in the car on the way home.
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